In the song ‘Afili Solitude’, Emre Aydın says, “The one who cheats is as much an enemy as the woman”. It is not surprising that the cheating woman turns into an enemy in the eyes of men. Because male cheating has been something more tolerable by society throughout history. In fact, until recently, when marriages broke down due to the cheating of the man, the wise members of the family gathered and immediately pulled the man’s ear and gave advice to the woman, saying ‘don’t let your home fall apart’. However, the woman’s cheating was never forgivable…
Women cheat because…
Did you like a man other than your wife?’ 13 percent of women with good marriages and 100 percent of women with bad marriages answered “yes” to the question! This result shows that the unhappy woman is more likely to cheat. Clinical Psychologist Feryel Tukel from the Behavioral Sciences Institute lists the reasons that lead women to cheat:
• Being unintentionally married due to family pressure
• Passive, insecure or aggressive, authoritarian, condescending, humiliating attitudes of the spouse
• Problems such as excessive jealousy, alcohol, violence
• Living in a large family, the man always being on the side of his family
• Being away from home for a long time, being a workaholic, coming home very late at night
• Male sexual selfishness
• Desire to take revenge on the cheating spouse
Numbers deception studies
• According to the results of the Global Sex Survey conducted in 41 countries in 2005, in which women and men participated, Turkey is the country with the highest level of cheating!
• According to a 2012 study published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 22 percent of married men and 14 percent of women have cheated on their spouses at least once.
• According to another study, cheating is more common between lovers. The rate of cheating is 21 percent for married couples and 51 percent for lovers.
• According to the results of the American Psychiatric Institute Survey, 26 percent of women and 31 percent of men cheat on their partners. But experts are of the opinion that men like to exaggerate numbers, while women tend to hide the truth about betrayal. From here, it is concluded that the number of women who betray is almost the same as men. The history of cheating is perhaps as old as love. It shows an increase of 40 percent!
Cheating is a multidimensional action that brings adrenaline and remorse to the deceiver together, and that hurts like an arrow stuck in the back of the deceived! It is both a very simple and a very complex action… It is simple enough to be explained by reasons such as the relationship not going as imagined, seeking novelty, ego satisfaction, succumbing to momentary excitements, but complex enough to turn a dead love into a thousand-piece puzzle. It also includes the yin yang philosophy, the doctrine of ‘there is no absolute good or absolute evil’, which we often encounter in Dan Brown’s books, and the story of Aydan, who became a prisoner of passion with her neighbor Cem after having sex with her husband in Ahmet Altan’s novel ‘Cheating’. If we add, “Why did the cheater cheat?” The question is impossible not to think of. Do not be misunderstood, of course, our aim is not to attribute deception to the indifference and inadequacy of the other party and to accept it as something tolerable and reasonable. Of course, it’s best to say this boldly and end the other relationship without taking action. Let’s discuss the questions that come to our minds, ‘Do women cheat more in the modern age?’ Let’s look for an answer to the question, we wanted to consult experts!
The modern age and deception
Lately, deception has become more common, not only in the tabloids of newspapers, but also in our own lives. According to the information provided by Clinical Psychologist Feryel Tukel from the Behavioral Sciences Institute, a study conducted in the USA shows that women’s infidelity has increased by 40 percent in the last 20 years. Auburn University
Men are still more prone to cheat, but the gender gap is closing, largely attributed to financial independence, the socialization of work and the proliferation of social media. In other words, the majority of those who think that the increase in cheating rates in modern times is a result of the consumer society. But there are also those who attribute deception to genes!
Why is it that some people do not even think of crossing the safe limits of monogamy, while for others cheating is an indispensable passion? Well, have you ever thought that cheating habits such as high blood pressure, colored eyes, tall stature and cholesterol can also be genetic, that is, they can be passed from generation to generation? Some gene engineers think that humans have deception genes. For example, British scientists working within the scope of a study interviewed 5,000 women between the ages of 18-60. 23 percent of these women admitted to cheating on their spouses at least once. Within the scope of the same research, twin women were also examined and it was seen that if one of the twins betrays, the rate of betraying the other is 55 percent!