The predominant neural structure is serotonin. He has a traditional personality. Serotonin triggers estrogen, suppresses testosterone. He is calm and respectful of authority. Devotion has developed and has a regular life. It cannot work under pressure. He doesn’t like uncertainty, he likes rules. The hierarchy is just right. Thinks step by step, likes to plan. He is patient. It is suitable for group work. He is an advocate of tradition. He is careful. He is not a coward. He is conscientious. He has a dogmatic mind that is closed to change and is stubborn. He is always in pursuit of the truth. When he is pessimistic, he turns to fatalism. Some fail to change things that have gone bad.
In this personality type, which occurs due to testosterone, the ring finger is physically longer than the index finger. Spatial intelligence is developed. He is good at music and sports while his ability to focus is well developed. It is pragmatic. It’s a problem solver. He can make bold decisions. Doesn’t care about diploma. The testosterone hormone rarely makes you laugh, it makes you more aggressive, it becomes difficult to make eye contact. During adolescence, boys therefore have a hard time making eye contact.
The predominant neural system is estrogen and oxytocin. These types of people are good at writing. He is skilled at seeing the whole picture. Usually the index and ring fingers are of equal length. Imagination ability is strong. Their minds are busy with two different thoughts at the same time and it does not tire them. Mentally flexible. It is empathetic. It has mirror neurons (neurons that help to feel what the other person is feeling). He is a good introspector. He is prone to depression when his attention is on himself. It is romantic. He is successful in falling in love and maintaining it.
Which one are you?
Stating that these systems are used to make decisions and understand life, Kahvecioğlu says that we are under the influence of whichever structure is dominant. “All of these have advantages and disadvantages. If we know ourselves, we also know what to control, and this control is more successful.” There are two ways to find out which type you are: the first is to find out using the FMRI device, and the second is to answer a 52-question multiple-choice test.
For matching partner selection…
“Marriage should no longer be a lottery. Discover yourself and what kind of partner you should have to minimize this risk. Invest in yourself in mate selection and try to reduce coincidences as much as possible. You are what your brain chemistry is. Understanding this can be very difficult at times. Even if you spent time before marriage, your spouse may change after the signature, that is, it will return to its essence,” says Cenk Kahvecioğlu, and his suggestions for a harmonious match are as follows:
• If you have a dopamine-dominated structure, it is important for your partner to be dopamine-dominant for your adaptation.
• If you are an estrogen-dominant person, your partner must also be estrogen-dominant.
• Cross-matching of serotonin and testosterone (ie, serotonin-testosterone or testosterone-serotonin) produces more harmonious marriages.
Article: Burçin Öztinaz
Maybe not ‘you’re the problem but ‘me’ too! All these years we’ve ignored the scientific ways to find the right person, can’t we?
It’s like we’re living the ‘Fall of Love’. Just when we say ‘I found it’, we lose, and miss what is ‘Truth’ and ‘Disinterested’. With modern times, it becomes difficult to find love, to live, to maintain it. Of course, marriage also takes its share from this situation. As it becomes easier to access information, communication, and even relationship, the reality of love is questioned. It is not like when communication is limited and requests are limited, and the possibility of growing old on the same pillow does not seem as high as it used to be for many of us. All of these lead people to despair about love at first. But perhaps we should redefine love instead of losing hope! Reviewing our expectations from the relationship, relying on scientific answers in choosing a partner… All of these can be the key to open the door to new and happy relationships. Worth to try!
Which Spouse Is Right For Me?
What’s the secret? “Learning our own biological characteristics in choosing a partner and knowing how to control it will guide us towards a happier and more peaceful life,” says Clinical Psychologist/Psychotherapist Cenk Kahvecioğlu. We talked about the effects of hormones on mate selection with Kahvecioğlu, who shared the results of her studies on the role of the neural system in mate selection at the 14th European Psychology Congress held in Milan in 2015.
Cenk Kahvecioğlu said, “It is important for us to get married due to our culture. One of the most important choices in human life, he says, is choosing a spouse and asks: “So how do we choose our spouse? What are our criteria? Are these criteria sufficient to maintain the institution of marriage?” He says that the key word for a relationship that will go on smoothly is harmony. So, who can get along with whom more harmoniously and more comfortably? How do we make the right choice? As I write this article, ‘Who are the happiest couples in my close circle?’ I must admit that I thought a lot about the question. I thought about the answer to this question and then tried to list what these couples have in common. The common point of all of them was that they actually accepted each other as they are… Specialist Clinical Psychologist/Psychotherapist Kahvecioğlu says that the most common mistake we make in choosing a partner is that we try to understand the person as we see them from the outside. “Is the spouse-to-be attached to the house? Does he have a job? Will he be a good wife and parent? They are generally looked after. But in reality, it is not possible to understand what kind of person a person will be in the future with these, and this situation can mislead us. At this point, understanding how our brain chemistry is leads us to more accurate results. According to my research, if we are looking for a quiet and traditional partner, then what we neurologically refer to as the ‘serotonin dominant type’ may be a good fit for us. If you marry a ‘dopamine dominant type’, that marriage will be harder to work out. Because your expectations from that person will not be met and he will never be the person you want.”
Dominant Neural System and Mate Selection
We all have different characteristics. Some of us are more compatible, some of us are more dominant. Some of us are messy, some of us are organized. While some of us have no problem with authority, some of us may think that it kills our creativity and restricts our freedom. Diploma and money are important for some of us, not so much for others. So why do these differences arise? Kahvecioğlu said, “These systems emerge depending on our genetic structure and affect the formation of the neuron structure in our brain while in the womb. Because of this effect, people’s perspectives on life and their evaluation of events change. There are typing (system) named with four different hormones. We actually have all of these hormones, but in people, one of them is more dominant and it creates that type. There are names we give to these systems in accordance with their structure,” he says, listing these four titles as follows:
The dominant structure is dopamine and norepinephrine. This type of personality literally drinks the sediment of life. He is an emotion seeker. It is sensitive to boredom. He is extremely and constantly energetic. Has a tendency to be impulsive. Creativity has developed. It has a procrastination structure. It can adapt. He is an optimist. He is very unreliable because he has trouble keeping his promises due to impulsiveness. It can be uncontrollable, messy and aggressive. dopamine; triggers testosterone, suppresses serotonin.