According to the Daily Mail, a woman named Emily started having a love affair with the person she met. She was sure that she had met the man of her dreams. She has never been this in love. Within a few months, she had left her family to pursue a relationship with this tall, handsome stranger who gave her intense bouts of butterflies.
Speaking to FEMAIL, Emily explained how she fell into a narcissist’s web, how she was used, abused and financially drained, and the signs she missed or ignored that got her into this situation. ‘I’d only ever dated good guys – I didn’t realize how bad they could be,’ she said. Angus made me feel alive. I’ve never felt this way with anyone before and I thought it was true love. But I was wrong, it was something else. Now he has chosen to share his story to help others make the same mistake. ‘I thought he would eventually kill me,’ he said. Unless the stress caused by the relationship killed him.
Too many female friends
Emily said Angus always had women around him. When Emily brought it up, Angus was doubling down on his right to be friends with ‘whoever he wanted’. “Whenever we went to a party, dinner or show, he would always bring a friend with him. It would always be a young woman, and he would introduce me to them as his partner or his fiancée, but he would ditch me for them all night long,” she said. “I was keeping their accounts at work and I was at an event. Then I realized he went to his ex-girlfriend’s house. The woman was one of those women who was always around. She said he was just a friend, but I don’t think you go to a friend’s house at two in the morning. ‘He was supposed to come with me but decided not to, when I asked him about it he said he could do whatever he wanted,’ she added. The couple went to counseling to overcome this problem. Besides, Angus didn’t even want Emily around men.
quick to judge
Angus would complain about everyone as soon as he left the room. She would tell Emily that her friends were stupid, unreliable, or boring. And he would complain to anyone who would listen. “He would tell them I was terrible and that he couldn’t do this anymore. He would scold me for doing something he thought was wrong, and then he would tell everyone about it,” she says. ‘And it wasn’t just his friends or mutual acquaintances. He would corner my friends when I went to the toilet at parties or at dinner and pass on his judgments.
Doesn’t talk to his ex-girlfriend or children, complains about them
“I was married to a wonderful man. I didn’t love him the way I want to love someone, and our relationship ended long before our divorce when I met Angus. But he is a wonderful, kind, generous man. Even though I didn’t do everything right, he never talked behind my back or tarnished my name. “Men don’t do that about women they have affairs with – especially if they have children together.” But Angus was different. “I feel guilty for believing his stories about his crazy ex-wife who abused him and held him back for years,” he said. “He said he had to leave with nothing, that he had blown his children’s minds.” “I felt sorry for him when he said he poisoned me. ‘If a man can’t have an amicable relationship with his ex-wife and especially his children, then you should consider running away. Especially if he tries to humiliate them at every opportunity and you haven’t seen any of his so-called crazy behavior yourself.”
He’s not financially secure but he acts like he is
“Angus was a complete show-off. I paid for everything in that relationship, apart from the dinners out, which he insisted on paying for in a loud voice for everyone to hear. “He used to joke about how expensive I was, about having another new dress. He would say that we were going on a luxury trip overseas again. ‘I paid for all of this. And when he acted like that, I felt exasperated and embarrassed. He acted like he had money but then told me he could help me with the rent and bills next week. She claims he spent more than $180,000 on her throughout their relationship. ‘If a man pretends to be big and rich but has to live small to do it, then you should run away. “This is a scam,” he said. ‘I don’t mind being with a modest person, I don’t judge that. But if he claims to be a money man and lives in a bad part of town in a terrible rent. Next time I’ll check if the guy’s life matches his ads.
Emily wants women to watch out for these red flags
1 – Friendships – if they don’t have long term friends or boyfriends then you need to think twice. If he only has female friends and it looks like he’s met them all on dating apps or has had sex with them all, then run away.
2 – Financial security – if he acts like he has more money than he does and does not have the level of financial security appropriate for his age then you need to reconsider. Especially if you’re financially secure and he makes you pay for everything or wants to move in with you.
3 – Judgmental – If he dismisses your friends and family after a conversation or talks about how bad everyone else is, then he should be avoided. I heard him judging everyone and I was subjected to criticism. He could also judge me with other people.
4 – Past relationships – If he is too intimate with his past lovers, then he should be avoided. However, it is also important to examine men who do not talk to their children’s mothers or establish relationships with their children. Especially if they constantly tarnish their name and call them crazy.
5 – When you feel like your social circle is shrinking – if your lifelong friends or loved ones tell you there’s something wrong with your partner, stop inviting you to things you need to listen to. Narcissists want to destroy your support network.
6 – Selfish tendencies – We would fight before important events in my life and I had to continue to diminish myself so that I could be the person people admired. He did everything with himself in mind, and when I told him this, he would tell me that I was nothing and that he was important.
7 – Explicit abuse – this happened after I became addicted. He tried to control my money, cut off my relationship with my loved ones, gassed me, and then began physically abusing me.