Relationship guru and mother of four Heidi Poelman, author of “The Two-Minute Marriage Project: Simple Secrets for Staying in Love”, has some great advice on how to strengthen your relationship to preserve marriage. exists.
The book describes the theories of achieving big results with some small details.
These simple suggestions can help save your marriage, and the best part is that none of them take longer than two minutes:
WAYS TO SAVE MARRIAGE IN TWO MINUTES
HAVE A POSITIVE OPINION AGAINST CERTAIN ACTIONS
Over the years, couples tend to forget why they chose each other and focus on what’s bothering them. Research shows that the longer you stay married, the more likely you are to give daily actions a negative reason rather than a positive one, and this can have serious consequences. The more positive the statements about a partner’s behavior, the more likely a couple will stay together.
Therefore, focus on the positive characteristics of your husband rather than the negative ones. For example; Instead of thinking that he’s just leaving dirty dishes in the sink because he’s lazy, think that he’s very good at work and at work, too busy to wash them before he goes to work.
KISSING IS NOT JUST FUN, IT IS IMPORTANT…
One in five married couples doesn’t take the time to kiss because they’re often too busy. Strive to kiss your partner once a day for at least a week. Kiss her on the cheek or lips with a sincere kiss. Researchers from Arizona State University found that couples who crowned their relationship with a kiss experienced less stress and also lowered their cholesterol levels.
CELEBRATE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS, HOW SMALL
Researchers from UCLA and the University of Rochester examined four ways in which spouses respond to each other’s achievements: excited, supportive but quiet, no response, and actively discouraging.
It turned out that couples who reacted to each other’s successes as discouraging were more unhappy in their marriage. Also surprisingly, people with quietly supportive spouses also had lower levels of marital happiness. Therefore, be excited about successes and make a difference in your marriage with small celebrations.
Celebrate the news of your spouse’s success with a special meal.
EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE
We all want to be appreciated and praised for our efforts. Expressing your gratitude and admiration and understanding what your husband or wife likes shows that you don’t take them lightly. Write down something your spouse is grateful for that day. Keep all these daily. Read them over and over so you don’t forget them during a dispute.
REMEMBER YOUR EXCITEMENT WHEN YOU SEE IT, LOOKING AWAY FROM EACH OTHER
When you are separated from your partner, get excited when you see him again. If partners seem genuinely happy to see each other, it helps to reconnect them.
USE ‘WE’ INSTEAD OF ME
Describe your marriage as a team rather than two separate individuals. So you have a united front. This makes you the perfect partner.
MAKE HIM HAPPY WITH THE LITTLE THINGS
People say it’s the little things that cause a marriage to fall apart, but it’s also the little details that hold a marriage together. Try to make him happy with little things. It’s a nice word, a small gift, a housework you can do for him, making breakfast in the morning.
LISTEN TO HIS WORDS
You got married and now you’re half an apple. So don’t listen to what he has to say. Try to listen and understand it.
It’s not hard to show your partner that you care and that your relationship is important to you. With these 8 simple and time-consuming lists of actions, your marriage can be solid as a rock.