SELECT THE PLACE AND TIME
The place you choose to explain your separation decision is very important. Being in a crowded shopping mall or a cafe might not be a problem for you, but think about it from the other person’s perspective. You should choose a place where he or she will feel comfortable.
This is not an issue to be confined to narrow times. You should choose a day where both you and your lover will have enough time for this conversation, not a lunch break or a day where you need to get somewhere in a hurry.
Express what’s on your mind, your feelings for him, and the setbacks in your relationship without offending him. Of course, give him a chance to speak. Don’t let the dialogue turn into a fight.
It’s important to be clear, as slurring, talking like you’re unsure, creates the impression that you’re likely to come back. After all, you have decided on something and now you are in the implementation phase. Since you are convinced that this relationship will not last for you, you should convince the other person of this as well. Avoid sentences that begin with “I think”.
Your partner will of course have many questions. When answering them, do not take an angry tone. Instead of blaming him and clearing yourself, you can honestly say that you were the reason for the breakup. This will also save you from the guilt.
EXPLAIN WHY THE SEPARATION
If you continue the sentence “I want to end the relationship because…” citing the problems arising from you or the other person, everything will become clear and he will not be insistent on you.
BE PREPARED AFTER THE SEPARATION
When you end the relationship and completely cut off your ties, everything is not completely over. Men can’t help but look for second chances. Make it clear that you are closed to a re-negotiation request.
THE NEW LIFE WILL NOT BE EASY
Of course, your new life will not be easy for you either. After all, there is no separation without crying! There will be times when you will be sad, maybe look for your old habits and miss them. But be strong and keep in mind that these are temporary. Spend more time with your friends and try to adapt to your new life.