If a woman decides to get out of a long relationship, it doesn’t happen overnight. First, he thinks for a long time, weighs, dreams, memorizes his sentences… After that, he makes his decision and sets out. She thinks she knows where the road will take her when she sets out, but after getting out of a long relationship, life is actually not that easy. Things you forgot, missed, time flies by quickly… But once you set out and make a decision, you can get rid of any negativity that may happen to you by laughing out loud and get over the situation.
Any handsome guys around?
If you looked at the world with blinders when you had a lover, you wouldn’t know who is around you. All of a sudden, you realize that you are saying, ‘I don’t even know whether the men working in our plaza are handsome or ugly’. At the most popular summer resorts, you look for bougainvillea, not handsome passers-by. You get excited by the architecture of the building with your mouth open. He notices the handsome passing by with those around you poking you ‘I wonder if no man will be able to excite me anymore?’ you think. Don’t bother yourself. After so many years, let the bougainvillea excite you for a while. Realize that you can’t stand the male fly buzz and enjoy.
Everyone is coming at me…
The best part of long relationships is that no matter how many boyfriends you have, no one instantly puts the ‘this girl likes this guy’ stamp on you. You can easily make friends with men and have fun. However, even the man whose hand accidentally hits yours the moment you leave a long relationship becomes potential gossip material. Even if you don’t hear the sentence ‘See how he looks at her, there is something between them for sure’, you can tell from his eyes. You widen your nostrils out of anger, and you walk away from the environment by banging your heels on the ground. Don’t do it, just let it go. You are a free woman, do whatever you want to do. Also if you like
even to whom?
Every night without sleep…
After you overcome the psychology of separation, you start sleepless nights to catch the life you missed as soon as possible. You go to work with a maximum of three hours of sleep a day, work all day as if nothing is happening, look forward to the evening check-out, and hit yourself at night again. Okay, we get it, you need to have fun and travel, but you have to learn to restrain yourself a little bit about it. Otherwise, you can turn your life upside down when you say mistakes you make over and over, your nervous system, stress. At this point, set rules for yourself. Set yourself a few evenings and try to spend the other days calmer.
All of a sudden, you notice people you don’t know and feel their eyes on you. This event, which you cannot make sense of at first, is actually a reality that has always existed and that you are not aware of. When you close yourself to the outside world, don’t be scared when the birds you missed surround you one by one! Do not be afraid even when you see the man who comes to you on the big plane running from the sea and sits next to you in only his swimsuit and is courting you. This universe may have a little joke on you. Keep having fun. The golden rule here is not to get caught. If you get caught up in every guy who shows interest in you, you’ll likely stumble and fall head over heels. Remember the first rule is to have fun!
Will it be new?
The love photos you remove from social media accounts may not go unnoticed by some ex-lovers. Or you can re-join groups of friends that you didn’t join because your ex is there for a long time, because you don’t care anymore. How logical it seemed to you to go back to the old one rather than getting to know someone new and dealing with it, right? Come to yourself! If it was for you anyway, would his name be ex-girlfriend?
You cannot empty your mind and brain as easily as you come back to life. You find yourself at the door of either fortune-tellers or healers. Of course, you are right to go after whatever is good for you during this period, but our humble advice is to try to forgive yourself first. Continuing on the road by saying that instead of being sad and grieving over the past years, you have to live through them! And you have to work for it.
One of the biggest nightmares for people coming out of a long relationship is not knowing what to do the moment someone new becomes interested in them. Don’t worry, this is not just for you. Admit that you forgot to flirt. You can do the same. You can start by asking him questions, coy, and sneak glances. Don’t be afraid, you can do it!