Prof. from Memorial Şişli Hospital Liaison Psychiatry Department. Dr. Sedat Özkan stated that in order for marriages to continue, couples must be equal in terms of age and social status and said, “The separation of couples who are happy in different places and have different interests is inevitable.”
Özkan noted that the main reasons for divorce are social, economic, sexual and psychological problems between couples.
Stating that age and social status determine the future of marriage, Özkan said, “It is very important for couples to be equal for marriages to continue. If the education level and sociological structure of women and men are too far apart, this will increase conflict by reducing the sharing between couples. Also, different lifestyles and habits in marriages. cause significant problems over time.
happening,” he said.
Stating that the relations continued for a few years in a beautiful and harmonious way, the man got tired over time, and the woman wanted to continue an active and fun life with the energy of her youth, Özkan continued as follows:
“The separation of couples who are happy in different places and have different interests is inevitable. Couples should be free to make decisions. One of the reasons for divorce is living with mother-in-law and father-in-law in the same house, which is a problem for the majority of our country. Expecting newly married couples to adapt to an established order is a big problem. Couples who cannot form a lifestyle and become independent cannot adopt their own marriage, and it becomes difficult for the man to transition from the role of son of the house to the role of wife.
It is important for the future of their marriage that they decide for themselves from where they will live to the education of their children. Living with the extended family model makes it difficult for the parties to express their opinions and make their choices easily and causes erosion between husband and wife.
“Decreased sharing destroys the harmony of couples”
Özkan emphasized that women do not have economic independence or that there are a lot of unhappy marriages for children, and that the sexual problems experienced have become a problem that cannot be expressed but causes discomfort over time.
Pointing out that men live their sexuality with their bodies and women with their brains, Özkan stated that this difference causes other problems that have not been resolved over time to be reflected in the sexual life of couples.
Mentioning that personality conflicts between couples are also an important factor in divorce, Özkan continued as follows:
“While women adapt more quickly to the roles that life has prepared for them, this situation takes time for men. While women can enter the role of mother without being a mother yet, men can adapt to this role after becoming a father. In this process, the decrease in sharing naturally makes it difficult for couples to understand each other, and there is no harmony. is doing.”
Özkan suggested that couples apply to relationship therapy before the decision to divorce. Expressing that couples’ problems can be solved with therapy, but it is not easy to convince men to therapy, Özkan also noted that this situation makes it impossible to solve the problems.