Ufuk Tarhan (Futurists association president): There will be a ‘rational person’ in the future
In the future, the ideal will be replaced by the rational. Rational; rationality is the state of creating intelligence, knowledge, technology and resources ‘for the most beneficial’. We will rediscover the meaning of love and compassion, move more into the spiritual realm, and reshape and make sense of our lives. Money, career, position, car, house, status etc. We will form our ambitions according to our life goals and balance them. We will focus on using our minds, hearts and brains in a balanced way according to our personal visions. In short, the future will be a future where we will talk about rational people, we will not respect sexist distinctions like men and women, and more rational, hardworking, honest, genuine people will increase, and those who can act like this will be successful and happy.
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Maybe it is wiser to live realistic love instead of ideal love, but the symbol of love is the heart, not the brain!
I think the ideal lover and the perfect love are dangerous but very alluring products of the human imagination. These are not actually found; but it is present in fiction novels, fairy tales, legend and movies. Because there is no perfect and ideal, that is, a perfect, complete, complete person who has lived and lived on earth, the ideal cannot be in love either. Since I said that ideal love would be found in fiction novels and movies, let me give a few examples from Halid Ziya Uşaklıgil’s forbidden romance novel, Aşk-ı Memnu, which is now on the agenda again. Adnan Bey, who seems like an ideal father, sees Bihter, a young girl as his daughter, as the ideal lover, instead of marrying the governess who is suitable for his age and culture and whom his children love very much. In other words, he does not see the governess who would be his ideal wife; He is also not an ideal father. Bihter also desires the young male Behlül, who is natural and ideal for healthy young women. In other words, Adnan Bey is not the ideal lover for him. However, for Behlül, there are more lovers than ideal lovers. If Bihter and Behlül reunite, problems will definitely arise between them after a while because they are not perfect people. Even if a legendary love like Romeo and Juliet had a happy ending, the same human deficiencies would have arisen… Maybe it would be wiser to live realistic love instead of ideal love, but the symbol of love is the heart, not the brain!
(Model): Increase in ideal man may be ahead!
A contemporary, forward-thinking, self-developed, innovative woman is the ideal woman. I am also the ideal woman. If the ideal man is; He should also be interested in art and sports. He should take care of his personal care. But today’s men, unfortunately, the work is over, they go home, they go in front of the TV. I have found my ideal man. I feel lucky in this regard.
Semir Aslanyurek (Director): Aliye is Rona in the cinema…
In my opinion, the ideal woman is the ideal woman, who has a strong personality, knows what she wants, does not see herself as a commodity in any way, contributes to production as much as men and has a voice in society no less than men, opposes all kinds of exploitation and carries the flag of struggle for a just world. She is the woman on the front lines. Has such a female character been drawn in our cinema? I can’t remember. Our female characters are either the ‘Little Lady’ in the old Yeşilçam cinema, or the ‘smoky-eyed’ woman who cries all the time, under the domination of men, or more precisely, whose fate is determined by one or more men, who is artificially miserable if she is unhappy, and artificially happy if she is happy. If we talk about the ‘strong woman’ rather than the ‘ideal woman’, this is not reflected in our cinema in real terms. Strong female characterizations are usually the ‘strong and cruel mother’ types played by Aliye Rona. In world cinema, for me, the character of Rosa Luxemburg is an ideal female character.
Thanksgiving Morale (Artist): If he has an address, I’ll have it too!
My concept of ideal woman and man changes according to time. It is very important to trust… He should be smart, cultured and have a job he loves. I have to be first in your life. It should respect women’s rights. It should reduce the burden of women at home. He should prepare me a diet meal. He should smother me with presents. We should have synergy in bed… She should take care of herself, but not enough to use my creams and perfumes! I have not come across an ideal Turkish man, if anyone knows, I will ask for his address.
Let me start the article by describing one of my days… I took my son to the doctor early in the morning. After the examination, I quickly jumped in a taxi and brought her to the nursery. I talked to his teacher about what needs to be done for the birthday organization: ordering a cake, invitations, little gifts for friends… After leaving school, I went to the hairdresser for a blow-dry. After about 10 minutes of brisk walking, I caught the bus. In the service, I read my favorite book, listened to music. I came to work. I have made my appointments for the news I will do. At the end of the working hours, I again ran straight home; you can’t run like that in Istanbul traffic, that’s another matter of course… When I got home, I realized that there was no food in the cupboard. I said outside. My wife doesn’t mind the food thing, but I know a lot of men who don’t want it… Anyway; When I said food, dishwashing, I took care of the child; I did the accounting of the day with my wife. In the meantime, I took a glance at my favorite TV series. It’s not over… Let’s not forget personal care and preparation for the next day. And when I finally went to bed I was half unconscious… Now I’ll ask you. Am I the ‘ideal woman’? Response; I do not want to be! Because I can’t, I’m struggling. I was wondering if it’s just me. That’s why I wanted to write about this ‘ideal woman-ideal man’ topic. To know what is ‘ideal’…
First, I consulted Psychiatrist Gamze Özçürümez.
He said to the subject, “There is neither ideal woman nor ideal man… My master asked in vain, ‘Can you paint me a picture of happiness, Abidin?’ He didn’t say…” Özçürümez continues:
“According to whom, according to what?
After all, don’t the problems between men and women often stem from this search for the ideal and the illusion that I found the ideal?
When you fall in love, ‘That’s it! He’s the perfect person!’ we say. So, what happens to that perfect, ‘ideal’ person, that all our dreams are destroyed?”
Deniz Dogan (Designer): “I found my ideal match!”
The parties should be the same enough to understand the other’s words correctly and different enough to complete their deficiencies and to shoulder each other when appropriate. In this way, they will be each other’s ideal partner. I don’t think there is an ideal man or woman for everyone. Considering that I just got married, I guess it would be clear that my ideal woman is not an easy-to-find type… I have met my ideal wife. I have a happy marriage.
(Actor): “I found that woman”
She is a woman who is aware of the relationship between her body and her identity, and instead of blindly accepting all the duties and responsibilities that are pre-loaded on her identity, she has the power to organize on her own initiative, and tries to find ways to exist not only with her female identity but also with her human identity. I have found my ideal woman.
Dear Cat:“There are 350 ideal people in our country!”
If we accept ‘modern’ and ‘ideal’ as synonyms in parentheses, this definition becomes even more impossible. The ideal woman should be nothing but a version of the ideal man with a slightly different xx chromosome pair, with a slightly different reproductive and hormonal system. I am a man who is modern, primitive, hybrid, obscure, liar, rational and irrational enough to ideally represent my age and the geography I live in. According to my criteria, there are about 300-350 ideal people in our country. They believe that there is no such thing as an ideal (modern) man. I spoke to all of them individually. There are about 100 men and 200 women. I can cite Yeşim Salkım as an example to the modern woman in our country and Nihat Doğan to the modern man.
Mehmet Turgut (Photographer): “Everyone has met their ideal partner”
Our excesses, the ups and downs in our feeling sequence, our actions and words that we can’t control from time to time can make the person or people in front of us uncomfortable and uneasy. The more we can minimize this, the more ideal we are. Everyone has met their ideal couple several times in their life, but you don’t realize they are ideal until you lose them. After losing him, your ideality in his eyes becomes open to discussion.
The ideal man in the picture
Painter Desen Haliçınarlı said that the male body, which is described as ‘ideal’ in the history of art, also comes together with its physical strength and spiritual virtues, compared to the female bodies described as purely ‘desire’ objects. Pointing out that ancient Greece and Rome were accepted as the source of the ‘ideal’ male design, Haliçınarlı said, “Besides, the most striking example is Michelangelo’s 18-foot-tall marble statue Davud (1501-1504). Undoubtedly a masterpiece in plastic; “Physically flawless, heroic, strong, big, and sexually disturbing to many men.”